With leftover turkey now finally disposed of and with only a few unappealing strawberry-flavoured Roses chocolates left to distract me; my mind is turning to 2015 and what it will bring. Like most people I’m also thinking about what I’ll resolve to do differently.
Most professionals in the ‘life-improvement’ arena tend to think New Year’s Resolutions can be a bit of a distraction. After all we can try to change our lives at any time of year and as most people know; announcing our great intentions at midnight on January 1 to anyone who will listen is certainly no guarantee of achieving them.
But still I think New Year is a great time to press pause and think about change or perhaps more importantly, think about the possibility of change. For many, being able to entertain this possibility alone is actually the more difficult task.
However, if I were pushed to come up with some resolutions of my own this year, I would, of course, focus on relationships. Like the shoemaker’s children; even relationship therapists’ loved ones can occasionally find themselves ‘barefoot’, and so with that in mind, here are a few of my (pretty universal) relationship resolutions:
- Remember I’m not the only one who is tired, busy, and faced with a thousand demands.
- There is always time to say goodbye or to welcome home properly. It takes seconds. I have these seconds!
- Say what I feel and feel what I say. But at the right time. In the middle of a London Derby is probably not that time!
- Live in the moment – his and mine.
- Say thank you. Always. He doesn’t have to do ‘stuff’, any more than I have to.
Happy New Year when it comes!